The Liebster Award

This is an award given to bloggers by other bloggers,  to celebrate their efforts and hard work in the world of blogging. It is a show of appreciation and a way to encourage, especially new and up-coming bloggers, letting them know  that hard work and dedication, towards decimating quality message to the world does not go unnoticed. This award only exist online and is being used in the blogging community to encourage and help bloggers gain more recognition.

I am very happy and thankful to be nominated for LIEBSTER AWARD. It feels good to be recognized and appreciated by others for your work.

Thank you so much Sushma for nominating me.

Sushma is a fashion blogger. Please visit her blog and follow it.

Here is the link https://dressupandblossom.in/

Rules

1. Thank the person who nominated you and mention their blog.

2. Answer the 11 questions given by your nominator.

3. Nominate 11 Bloggers.

4. Ask your nominees 11 questions.

5. Ask your nominees to Nominate 11 others.

6. Notify your nominees once your post is live.

Answers to the 11 questions are as follows:

1. What would be the other profession you would choose other than blogging?

I am published poet and freelance journalist, Besides this I would like to work with providing writing solutions, research and be an actor if given the opportunity

2. How do you keep update yourself about recent trends?

Stay updated on social media with the latest news, hashtags, mood of people, etc.

3. What inspires or motivates you to keep blogging?

My passion and interest to write and tell stories. There are times I am inspired by a certain theme or thought about society and current times that I reflect about. I write to communicate these reflections and observations.

4. What do you want to thank god for?

My parents, talents, intelligence, value systems and people who motivate/ support me

5. Do you still watch cartoons?

No

6. How do you train your mind to think positive?

I listen to music, use humour, focus on spiritual inspiration, read positive quotes and stories

7. Share your 3 healthy habits for mind and body?

Exercise, Healthy home cooked balanced diet and listening to songs that keep you upbeat

8. Share one of your favorite quote?

Poetry is the spontaneous overflow of powerful feelings; it takes its origin from emotions recollected in tranquility.

9. Are you a follower or a leader?

I am both depending on the situation. Everyone has to begin as a follower to be inspired and become a leader of your own way of life, thoughts and value systems

10. How do u promote your blog?

Share it on social media platforms regularly

11. Your honest review about my blog?

Dressup and Blossom is written by its theme to help people choose fashion trends of the urban Indian world that has a combination of indian and western options. It also has fitness and health related information to keep yourself holistically updated.

My Nominees

  1. Kalansh Gala (Personal Blog)

https://apurpletale.blogspot.com/

2. Beauty Beyond Bones (Inspirational Blog)

https://beautybeyondbones.com/

3. My Serene Words (Personal blog)

https://myserenewords.wordpress.com/

4. Phoebe Chi (Health and Inspiration blog)

https://phoebemd.com/

5. Nick Kush (Film and Entertainment blog)

https://moviebabble.com/

6. Dan Venture Travels (Travel blog)

https://danventuretravels.com/blog-posts/

7. Rahul Gaur (Inspirational blog)

https://rahulgaurblog.com/

8. Richard Yardan (Inspirational blog)

http://www.richardyadon.com/

9. Be inspired (Health blog)

https://empress2inspire.blog/

10. A Mermaids Pen (Personal blog)

https://mermaidspen.wordpress.com/

11. Akarsh Jain- A Fine Balance (Personal blog)

https://akarshjain.wordpress.com/

My Questions for the nominees are:

  1. What does writing mean to you?
  2. When did you first begin your full fledged experience of writing?
  3. What inspires you?
  4. Your favourite genres/ themes when you write
  5. Who is your favourite writer and why
  6. A life lesson you learnt through your writing experience
  7. What social media platform helps you connect best with your readers?
  8. Tell me about a valuable feedback from a reader that you will always remember
  9. What form of writing is best for you, short tiny tales or long articles?
  10. A suggestion that could help increase the value of writers and help them gain recognition a better way
  11. A message to other young budding writers

Women empowerment and the Feminist Movement: Relevance, Concerns of the past and Current scenario…

Born as a one of the few children to a middle class family, *Caren’s childhood was not the regular joyous one you would expect to be. Her father did not have a regular job and would spend most of his time drinking. If this was bad, his frequent violent behavior was worse and made it extremely difficult to live a decent life. With the lack of freedom to move out of a troubled marriage and need to look after her children, her mother was forced to leave her home country and work elsewhere. She and her siblings were left to live as boarders at their school premises. This tells us the relevance of the feminist movement and need for women empowerment in society. While critics might argue about this based on its current position. Our past always has answers to social movements and emancipation.

Currently the prime focus of feminist movements has been concerns about breaking the glass ceiling and equal opportunities at workplaces. The next concern being sharing the load of household chores. While men have become responsible in terms of their professional role to educate themselves and work to manage the financial needs of the family. This was not the case with several families in the past despite the boys of the family having greater access to education opportunities. What was the problem of the past?

While sociology might show women for their primary role as caregivers. In the past women were both caregivers and breadwinners at the cost of dealing with lazy husbands who wanted happy go lucky lives, free from responsibilities and drink all day. Women were forced to do odd jobs, and work as cooks and cleaners at small shops or for families to earn wages to support their families. While their husbands would only waste their hard earned money on alcohol and create a ruckus all day. At that time divorce was not seen as an acceptable way to part from troubling husbands. Women despite being breadwinners neither had freedom to move out of such marriages nor had a control of their own hard earned money. Additionally, this was also a time of the joint family system. Along with fighting to survive amidst oppressive households, women had to work for families without job security and dignity of labour. While in families where men worked women had to tolerate oppressive in laws and burden of performing all tasks like purchasing groceries, cooking, raising children and healthcare needs of aged elders.

The current scenario might seem better in terms of reduced domestic violence and responsible adult male members, yet these issues are still prevalent in several societies and families. Currently every household has their male members having a regular job or source of income. Men also engage in other financial and administrative responsibilities of the family. Yet in recent times there is a constant plea of sharing the load for domestic tasks and equal opportunities to perform professional tasks. Women continue to feel burdened by no freedom from household chores and worried due to lack of opportunities and acceptance in professional spaces. Some complain that men feel threatened by their ambitiousness and want to restrict their ability to perform by constantly keeping them occupied with household activities.

While this is prevalent in families, some are different. These have begun the practice of men sharing the household load, while encouraging and supporting women in their professional life. Some families and societies have begun supporting the concept of women entrepreneurship to support women to develop an identity outside their domestic roles. However, there are problems in such forms of employment. While some families use this to empower their female members, others just see it as an added income for the household for selfish financial interest rather than the concern for helping women to develop themselves. Additionally, this is often used as an option when women fail to feel accepted in the mainstream professional workplace or don’t receive support to balance regular work and domestic household responsibilities.

While these are concerns about role and responsibilities of women, the lack of acceptance for a girl child and obsession of having male children is customary in certain families. If you observe carefully, you find certain families having two and three elder daughters and one or two younger sons. This show how despite the awareness for acceptance to girls, boys continue to be a preferred choice. As per traditional society and beliefs if a boy was born after the birth of three girls he was seen as the lucky one and adored by his family and community. While if a girl was born after three boys she was seen as the unlucky one and despised by her family and community. The boy would receive great proposals during marriage, while the girl was often forced to stay single as this aspect was seen as a hindrance to a peaceful marriage. A recent news report informed about a professional community like information technology workers going for healthcare tourism to other countries to try for male children through IVF due to pressure from senior members to satisfy their desire for a male descendant.

The safety concerns and economic problems as consequences of the Pandemic has increased load of household duties. Companies are laying off people due to cost cutting. This is a cause of concern to the efforts of the feminist movement and women empowerment. It is important that such needs are not treated as secondary and are addressed alongside the other issues of significance.

Matters of the heart and mind

Article written as Guest Writer for The Purple Tale Blog- The Link

The previous decade was packed with advancements in science and technology. This rapid change also meant that our life has been moving fast. There was so much to do and explore that one life felt too little for this. People were so busy learning, working, traveling, upgrading their skills and entertaining themselves. We never thought that we would be forced to live with a pandemic and suddenly be told to stop all our rushing, slow down and lock ourselves for safety. This has shifted the gaze from all the external aspects of life to the internal matters. These internal matters are about our heart and mind, they focus on our home, our family or living with any significant loved ones who can make us feel safe and valued. This is like a call to reflect about our emotional wellness, a cherished aspect when life becomes so short and temporary and we cannot think about a long term future.

Emotional wellness might seem like a sophisticated topic but it is an essential element of life. Unfortunately, it is not seen as relevant and is rarely practiced. You mostly read about it in books on spirituality and psychology or see it as a word used for promotion strategies by institutions and organizations.

The present day world has witnessed several scenarios. In academia, students cannot complete their course and academic structure as usual or have to wait longer to begin a planned course. In employment, some have lost the opportunity to work while others are forced to wait longer to begin work. Additionally, as you are trying to deal with this pause you do not have situations to socialize, events to participate and can’t visit places you wanted to tour. All these external goals are on standstill mode and you feel like you are losing the purpose of living. Amidst all this personal confusion there is a novel pandemic and the fear of death. It’s normal to experience confusion and feel low. It’s also okay to feel restless but letting all of it affect your life is not good.

We are always told to be ambitious and hardworking, we seldom learn the value of patience. Patience that waits near the hills for the storm to pass without rushing to the risky plains, also one that waits for the dawn of a new day to work in daylight rather than struggle during a long night filled with darkness. If only we knew how to wait and stay calm without chasing the next goal and use this time instead to understand the value of simple life skills not part of any course or curriculum at schools or colleges, we could deal with this phase. Instead we have been so busy understanding the complicated aspects in life that it has become difficult to live life the simple way.

A lack of means to learn or an opportunity to work is seen as a loss of purpose in life. But life is not a bio-data sheet of educational qualifications and professional experiences. It is a journey that has spiritual, emotional, social and cultural aspects that are often ignored. If only our bio-data and profiles could focus on our values, godliness and everyday tasks, the meaning and value of life would change. Life comprises of the small significant relationships we share with people and the little things we do for them. It is about our belief systems and praise and worship for the well-being of each other, rather than mere blind faith or religious superiority that divides people. It is also about our daily activities and behaviors that we do to look after ourselves physically and emotionally. But these are not bio-data or LinkedIn worthy and hence are rarely seen as achievements in life. Achievements are not only about completing a course or being the best, it is also about learning various ways to live and survive to make life meaningful when everything around you seems mundane. It is about seeing beauty in simplicity rather than sophistication.

This pandemic has taught us how unplanned and short life is. But despite all this uncertainty it is the small significant deeds and relationships that will make it worthwhile when long term plans and goals become redundant and hard to see.

As a life lesson from the experience of the pandemic it would be good if our families, communities, societies, institutions and organizations truly shifted their focus to nurture the value of human beings based on who they are in terms of their quality of life rather than reduce human existence to a data value of marks, earnings, and years of active work. We need to learn ways to live rather than think about death when we feel low, disappointed and uncertain in life.

Motivating young voices in their role as activists of social change

“I raise up my voice, not so that I can shout but because   those without a voice can be heard. When the whole world stays silent even one voice is powerful,” these are quotes of Malala Yousafzai, a young activist from Pakistan who pioneered the need for female education. There has been a rise in youth activism in the recent times. Malala’s plea for education, Greta Thunberg and Licypriya Kangujam for climate change, students in Hong Kong after the fugitive offenders’ amendment bill and students in India after the citizenship amendment act are some examples. Young people have always been at the forefront of activism since the freedom struggle and post-Independence because the country witnessed revolutionary changes during post-colonial times. This reduced when educational institutions became stricter in discipline and discouraged students from active political participation. However, there is a new breed of young crowd who have begun to rise above the silence and complacency to use their education to speak about the issues grappling society. Such emancipation is awe-inspiring, yet there is a trouble beneath this carpet of activism that needs to be addressed. This is both exciting yet challenging times for society. This needs to be encouraged for a vibrant coming of age democracy yet needs self-regulation so that these fruits do not turn sour or rotten due to backlash.

Dialogue is the best way to encourage people to voice opinions. It is calm in nature and has space for participating as listeners who are eager to help with an effective approach. This needs to be done without considering either party as superior, allowing the youngsters to address their concerns without age and education being the barrier of communication. A generation that is encouraged to speak will do so after thinking well about the issue. This trains the person to engage in social participation to address issues at young age and prepares them for a leadership role in the future. Unfortunately differences in opinion and clashes in ego lead to trolling of youth. People call them immature, mouthpieces of adults and people who do not know how to utilize their education. This is not entirely true since maturity and awareness is not a product of age as in the past, rather it stems from qualitative experience and thinking.

Education is a young person’s best friend since these activists are students as well. However institutions are known to suppress conflicting opinion since we live during times when rote learning is a widely used technique of studying for exams and students are warned to follow rules without rebelling against the system. Education was introduced as a means of enlightenment, inspiration and change and hence it will be futile if this system curtails freedom of speech and expression. Students are taught about their civic rights and duties, environment and social issues troubling society apart from their basic education in natural and social sciences. They need to also be informed the purpose of studying what they do and how they can effectively use this knowledge to contribute for the well-being of their community. Young minds are new in ideas and their blood is warm with energy to work, if motivated well they will work for the good of society, if not they might become lazy due to discouragement and disappointment and this will prevent their flow of ideas that could have aided progress.

Besides being a time of learning youth is a time to enjoy the innocence of life freely. Unfortunately when students mature early in life and become voices of social change it feels like small feet filling big booths which could be difficult to handle. This makes them a center of focus which could lead to tantrums, back answering authorities and violent behavior that stems from their childhood instincts as mentioned in Psychology. This could also lead to them developing as Narcissistic personalities during adulthood with a failure to address issues in humility. Sometimes the person becomes greater than the problems discussed and this often leads to them suppressing other voices that prevent them from gaining the limelight. The youth need to be trained to be effective campaigners of the social concerns they endorse rather than focus on selfish personal interests that could be a hindrance to their optimistic movements. The adults should also avoid using them as representatives of their personal interest. They should be motivated to channelize their youthful energies to contribute towards the matters that they endorse with operational management and solutions. They should also be advised to refrain from utilizing the movement to promote self and other associates, rather see it as a means to begin their larger role in fostering community development and progress.

Franklin Roosevelt, the former President of the United States of America once said that a society cannot always build the future for the youth, but they can build their youth for the future. This suggests that we should not shape society as per our preferences for the future and direct our youth to follow this, rather we ought to work in holistic personality development of the youth that can make them effective participants of change and leaders of the future.